Post by weaselman on Jun 9, 2019 12:12:29 GMT
Jun 7, 2019 18:03:22 GMT Cathy said:
I dunno, he told me the name but I forgot. He gets these spasms in his neck and head, like it jerks to the side, and he can't move it back for a while. It hurts a lot too.Dystonia perhaps? Yeah, that can be very very painful. Sorry to hear that.
Is he getting treatment for it?
Jun 7, 2019 18:03:22 GMT Cathy said:
Yea, that what I think too. Like I don't mind helping him when he is sick or whatever, but it's like he wants me to think like him. It's too much. He wasn't like that before we went official, I just want to explain to him that's too much for me.
I am not sure you can, unfortunately. Explaining to other people what they should do rarely works (as you can see on your own example
).What you can do is give him space to figure it out on his own. Talk with him about how you feel (not about what he should do), explain that the basis of the relationship is trust, and that you would like him to trust your choices like you trust his. Leave it at that, and let him decide what he wants to do. I think, this is the best you can do in this situation.